Overcoming the Roadblocks to Healing

Much of the work done in Clinical Hypnotherapy is clearing roadblocks to health and wellness – our natural state.

Are you or someone you love feeling blocked from health and wellness? If yes, here are some important factors to consider.

Is the Illness and Pain a Subconscious Connection to a Loved One?

We all naturally seek connection. Connection is one of our deeper needs, and we all have a desire to feel connected to the people in our lives that we look up to and love. One of the ways that people create a feeling of connection is by emulating certain characteristics of the person they wish to feel connected to. This is called “identification with a central figure,” and it usually happens subconsciously.

Occasionally, in order to create a feeling of connection, people will subconsciously emulate negative traits, including illness and pain. If, for example, a parent suffered from migraine headaches, a person may develop migraines as a subconscious means of identifying with the parent. The subconscious creation of real migraine headaches is a way to be like the central figure, and being like them creates connection. This is an example of secondary gain. While the migraines are painful and clearly unwanted, they do provide the person with a positive benefit—a feeling of connection.

In cases like this, I help my clients identify other traits or characteristics of the central figure that are positive or constructive. For instance, if the parent was always very patient with them, the client could focus on developing their own patience with themselves and others.

The key is to become consciously aware of the desire for connection, and then to intentionally fulfill that desire in a healthy way by identifying and emulating positive aspects of the person being identified with. When that happens, the illness and pain have no more positive value, so the subconscious can create health instead.

Let Go of the Suffering Meme

A meme is a unit of cultural information, such as a cultural practice, idea, or concept, that is transmitted verbally or by repeated action from one mind to another. Examples of memes include political views, social customs and religious beliefs. Part of our cultural heritage is the meme that “suffering has value.”

The suffering meme says that through suffering one can absolve oneself of guilt, pay for sins or mistakes, become worthy of good things, purify the mind, or connect with a spiritual being or source. This idea has been around for so long and is so pervasive that it has become a part of our collective unconscious. Whether they are aware of it or not, many people operate on this subconscious belief. And even for those who don’t, it is likely that some of the people who are close to them do.

There is no value in suffering other than the value that we mistakenly attach to it. And there is no outcome achievable through suffering that cannot be more easily, quickly, and comfortably achieved without it. A Course in Miracles says that suffering ends when the one suffering no longer values suffering.

The best way to help a client realize and accept that there is no value in suffering, is to help them have a direct experience of whatever it is they expected to gain, by redirecting the subconscious creative intelligence straight to the outcome. Be it spiritual connection, a return to innocence, or feeling worthy of God’s love, whatever the client is seeking can be experienced directly, now. The skillful use of hypnotherapy techniques makes this possible. Any experience the mind can imagine, the mind has the power to create.

The direct experience of the desired spiritual outcome re-educates the subconscious mind, teaching it that the way to peace and spiritual connection is through positive behaviors such as forgiving, accepting, and being generous with oneself and others. Mistakes can come to be seen as valuable feedback and opportunities for growth instead of sins to be paid for through suffering. Mistakes teach us to improve our thinking and take a better course of action.

When a person sees it is more valuable to improve their quality of thoughts, emotions, and actions, and less valuable to suffer, they just heal better.

Careful with the Organ Language

There are countless expressions in the English language that use body metaphors to describe negative states like frustration, fatigue, betrayal, stress, fear, and sadness. These kinds of expressions are known as organ language, because they frequently refer to a specific part of the body. For example, it’s common to hear people speak of having a “broken heart” or complain that something is a “pain in the neck”. Perhaps it could be “Responsibility on my shoulders” or my boss “gives me a headache”.

These statements can also act as unintentional autosuggestion and in some cases the subconscious mind will actually begin to create the condition being used in the metaphor. Here’s a story of a young woman who found herself working at a job that was out of alignment with who she was as a person. And the relationship she was in at the time was also beginning to fall apart. As the overwhelm of these two situations was mounting, she began saying, “I need a break!” Not realizing what a statement like that could create, she repeated it over and over again. After few weeks of this, she broke her hand. Later she was able to look back and see how her subconscious responded to her repeated suggestion. Now she says that the experience was a gift that taught her the power of language and how we all need to learn to speak consciously.

I coach my clients to become aware of their use of organ language. Is their job killing them? Are their children giving them an ulcer? Maybe. Or maybe it’s just their subconscious creative intelligence responding perfectly to their clear instructions.

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