6 Steps to Thriving Over the Holidays

Want to have an enjoyable Christmas?  You can’t unless you come from a place of positivity.   When we don’t take care of ourselves, especially when we’re busy, we end up feeling run down and stressed.  Instead, if we invest in ourselves and take regular breaks, those batteries will be re-charged, we will feel so much better and have that much more to give to the people around us. This is probably the best gift you can give, to yourself and others, this holiday season.

Take the first step now and carve out some time in your schedule for this upcoming week.    I have scheduled this evening to speak with family in Dubai, India and Australia.

Next, it’s okay to say no. If you’re feeling too overwhelmed and can’t handle the thought of one more party or get together, it’s okay to say no. I give you permission J What often ends up happening is that we feel resentful when we attend an event that we don’t really feel up to. This isn’t the right energy to bring to any gathering. People can sense when something is off. Most people will respect you for setting boundaries and being truthful. If they give you a hard time then they’re probably not worth the effort.  Sorry about the tough love, but it’s true. J

Step two is therefore about saying No. Remember, No is a complete sentence..LOL.  Try it at least once this holiday season and experience the liberating feelings that accompany it.

For some people reuniting with family and friends over the holiday season can be less than spectacular.  Have you heard of the Pain-Body?

In Eckhart Tolle’s book, A New Earth, he describes the pain-body as, “…a semiautonomous energy-from that lives within most human beings, an entity made up of emotion. It has its own primitive intelligence, not unlike a cunning animal, and its intelligence is directed primarily as survival. Like all life-forms, it periodically needs to feed-to take in new energy-and the food it requires to replenish itself consists of energy that is compatible with it’s own, which is to say, energy that vibrates at a similar frequency.  Any emotionally painful experience can be used as food by the pain-body.

Pretty heavy stuff, I know.  Essentially what he is saying is that even though we don’t want to believe it, there is a part in all of us that feeds off of negative thinking – and that actually likes drama!  When we push other people’s buttons on purpose this is what’s going on!

Tolle says the best way to lose identification with the Pain-Body is usually triggered by a situation that is affiliated with a certain kinds of emotional pain suffered in the past, This is why most people’s Pain-Bodies come out at family events. We tend to hang on to a lot of past hurts and resentments when it comes to our families. Imagine all of this coming to the table in one seating!

Tolle says the best way to lose identification with the Pain-Body is to recognize it when it comes out. Therefore step three is to acknowledge the pain and negative emotion you are feeling. Just being aware of it is all you need. Tolle says, “The knowing prevents the old emotion from rising up into your head and taking over not only the internal dialogue, but also your actions as well as interactions with other people.

Step four is reflection. Use your time odd this holiday season to reflect on this last year, what did you accomplish? What went well in your business and list? What didn’t go that well? Where can you improve?

You’ve probably guessing that step five is thinking about where you want to go. What are you big hopes and dreams for 2014? Try not to settle for what you think you can achieve. Really shoot for the stars and dream big! This is your chance to really go for what you want and you deserve ultimate abundance in all areas of your life!

Step six: Be thankful for where you are, where you came from and what’s coming next! Enjoy the ride and be grateful for the journey. Everything you experience is shaping and developing the amazing person that you are!

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